No news is...bad news?

Hi Village,

We haven't heard anything from the birth Mom or facilitator from the weekend. The child had already been born, and usually that creates a very quick series of events. Since we have not had to spring into action, it's unlikely that we will. I sent the facilitator a note this morning telling her that we assume birth Mom has found excellent folks for her son, and that we are excited for the new family. We will always cheer on the players of this game, and successful adoptions will get standing ovations. Our family cheers, laments, and celebrates trials and tribulations. Every step that an adopting family takes will get them closer to finding their child, the one who is meant to be with them. We share information, support, and sometimes we are going to end up helping other people find their children before us. Someday, we hope that someone chooses to help us in that way too. We are thankful for all adoption angels, supporters, and kind hearts who want to assist our journey. We need you.

Though we are excited that a little boy found his family, we are also a bit sad. Adoption can take a emotional toll on families that are waiting. You have to make sure you maintain the right attitude, speak your ills, and learn to move on towards progress. In this case, progress means bringing our child home in our arms. We don't know when that will be. We have had 4 legitimate situations presented to us so far, and have had no matches or contracts. We have never spoken with a birth mother directly or exchanged direct messages with anyone. Our social worker says this is normal and that it will likely stay this course until we find the one. Once our birth Mom finds us, everything feels fast but there are still no guarantees until that child comes home to us. There is now way of knowing when that will happen. I don't say IF because defeat simply is not an option.

We have finished 19 of our 30 steps in our Home Study. The rest of our steps are just waiting on scheduling availability, or can't be completed until we have a match. We are raring and ready to go, working on our family profiles, and finishing up pictures for our book. Each day we do a bit more, and each day we get one step closer to catching our shooting star.

-A.